The invisible imprint of abandonment

Abandonment is, above all, a deep wound inscribed in the soul, preventing us from setting boundaries and trusting ourselves. It keeps us in a state of permanent insecurity: the visceral fear of losing the other, of being left, of finding oneself alone facing the void.

Ignoring the needs of the newborn

When a child is already carrying a significant abandonment wound from past lives or astral ascents, but is also set aside during early childhood at the moment they most need physical and emotional support, their tendency to cling increases and deep fears develop.

A detail often ignored, yet crucial, lies in the management of nighttime fears. Punishing or becoming annoyed because a child is afraid at night, then ignoring their need for presence, or forcing them to go back to sleep alone while they experience discomforts invisible to the adult, creates deep-seated fears. These "young souls" can have highly developed mediumistic perceptions, often experiencing schemes by dark souls (visual or physical); thus, ignoring their distress in the darkness is to open a breach where insecurity will rush in for years to come. (I speak about this during sessions because I see in the consciousness of every human the astral attacks made upon us, which go unrecognised by the majority of incarnated beings).

The weight of humiliation: anger and anesthesia

Beyond absence, there is what the child actively endures: parental violence (experienced or observed), public humiliations, and belittling words. These traumas cause the wound of humiliation, or even injustice, to grow. To soothe these old pains that one refuses to look at, the adult may slip into a dull anger, hypersexualization, or the use of means or substances to "go out" and forget. One remains calm on the surface, until the day when, having no means left to defend oneself, one bursts out of one's hinges.

Betrayal: the mask of control and charm

The wound of betrayal becomes more deeply anchored when the parent of the opposite sex is not actively supportive of their child. To never again be betrayed by a parent of the opposite sex who failed to protect, the soul develops a strategy: Control, manipulation, charm.

Unconsciously, we enter into a pattern of manipulation to demonstrate our competence to our parent, to be that perfect child. And later, we use charm, kindness, and seduction to get what we need, to ensure the other stays, and to maintain a semblance of control over the relationship. I specifically emphasize "kindness," because many of us forget the difference between being authentic and using the offering of oneself to appear "pleasing enough." Here, kindness is no longer an aligned behavior, but a shield: we accept the unacceptable so as not to be rejected, abandoned, or humiliated, and to remain a "sufficient" soul for others, confusing true empathy with the need to be validated at all costs.

As adults with our wounds, we search for the "rare pearl" instead of healing our being and feeling sufficient, respected, and in love with ourselves. We end up establishing dark behavioral atypies where we pretend and manipulate the other as much as we are manipulated. We live in the fear of sabotaging everything, of not finally acquiring this love, this proximity with a beautiful soul that attracts us, sometimes even remaining terrified at the idea of no longer being able to live without this person who, at times, knew how to listen to us, make us feel magnificent, or even put us on a pedestal.

Breaking the cycle: Towards a holistic method

This mixture of fear, anger, and the need for control is not an inevitability. The feeling that your world would collapse in the event of a breakup can evolve. By becoming aware of the behavioral atypies related to the 5 wounds of the soul, and by adhering to a holistic method capable of lifting the shadow parts encysted in the emotional body—and with the help of my recognized allies from the astral world who can truly lift these traumatic memories—it becomes possible to:

• Exit the paralysis of fear, anger, and manipulation.
• Set healthy boundaries and respect oneself deeply.
• Cease using charm and violence as survival weapons.
• Understand and break repeating family patterns.

A first step toward yourself

If you recognize yourself in these patterns, if you feel you are manipulating so as not to be left, or if you carry the weight of an anger you no longer control, do not stay alone. I accompany you to put words to these ailments and to free your emotional space.